Hey, cocktale Clubbers!
So, if I have learned anything useful in the last few years, it is that having sexual bedside essentials is…well, essential! I have found that easy access to the things I need is a must and it alleviates any unnecessary awkwardness or panic. Seriously. That said…
here are some must-have essentials that NEED to be in your top nightstand drawer!
one | sexual protection
Yep, sexual protection. I hope this one was a no-brainer and comes as no surprise to you all! In episode one of The Cocktales Club, my gal pal Kaevyn Lei and I talked about how necessary sexual protection is. We also emphasized the fact that men are not the only ones who can wear protection. Female condoms are comfortable, effective, and easily available. In fact, I strongly recommend using LOLA’s lubricated female condoms — you will not be disappointed, I promise. So, in your top drawer should be male condoms and female condoms. And if Mother Nature is visiting for a few days, go above and beyond and get yourself some finger condoms (not gonna lie, I have the light pink ones, which you can get here). I have some and while the thought of putting latex condoms on individual fingers is laughable, they are useful and serve a purpose. Because who wants to turn down a great finger-fucking just because they have an unwanted (but greatly appreciated) monthly guest!? Nobody better raise their hands.
two | lubes
I will be honest and admit that I have only recently started using lube. For some strange reason, I had convinced myself that lube was only to be used when painful sex was occurring but then I became sexually educated and realized that sex is never supposed to hurt. Silly, dumb me. Anyways, I was also hesitant to use lube during any of my (previous) sexual encounters because my skin is very sensitive and my vaginal pH levels (read this article — super informative) get thrown off track very easily and because I have to be very careful about the products I use on my body and especially near my vaginal area, I didn’t want to do anything to throw my pH levels off and get an infection. But, then I became even more sexually educated and found out that they make water-based vegan lubes and that I would be just fine and dandy. From that day on, lube and I became very close and formed a super-tight bond. So, super long and unnecessary backstory short, have a few lubes in your top drawer, ok? Ok. Also, before I shut up about lubes, this particular lube is my favorite and I have an unnecessary amount of it. You’re welcome, mate.
three and four | sex toys + toy cleaner
If you ever come across someone that isn’t ok with you having and/or using sex toys with them, make them leave. Period. End of story. For any of you men out there who are convinced that a woman should only rely on your dick to get us off, good riddance. Clitoral stimulation is almost always necessary to accomplish an orgasm and sometimes (actually, most of the time), a penis alone cannot achieve that. No offense to you all, because men are great (most of the time), but a clitoral vibrator can and will make all of the difference when it comes to pleasure. That said, having a few toys on hand is totally ok, which is why I have included it in this post. Also, I am making a roundup post of my top 10 favorite sex toys, so until then, please refer to this page on my site where you can see an updated list of my favorite products with access to purchasing them yourself. Because I have already talked about the importance of toy cleaner (especially during this quarantine mess) in a fairly recent post, I will not go into detail and decided to just keep it short and sweet and add it to this section since they’re interchangeable or whatever you want to say. Simply put, use toy cleaner before and after every usage and keep it readily available by having it in your bedside drawer!
Also, here is what I keep in my drawer:
- a dildo
- a vibrator
- my cute pink fuzzy handcuffs (can y’all tell I love the color pink😉)
- toy cleaner
five | your birth contraception
Yes, Karen, people use birth control and no, Karen, it is not bad nor does it make them bad people for doing so. Sorry, I just thought I would make that short-but-sweet little PSA for all the Karen’s out there that troll my sacred website. You know who you are. Anyways, for those of us that do not have the IUD or the other non-pill forms of birth control, it is super essential to keep your birth control in a place that is easily accessible and readily available to you. Because you know I mentioned that Mother Nature visits monthly and while we may not like her week-ish long stay, we end up appreciating it (well, most of us, that is…), well, if you want her to visit, you have to put effort into maintaining that relationship by taking your damn pills every day. And yes, I slip up and forget at times and I always kick myself thinking, “Dammit Shirley, they’re in your top drawer.” So, I guess just don’t be me and mess up. and if you do, that is ok. But, having them in your top drawer is essential which is why it’s on this list.
six | washcloths
Ok, I would be my normal vulgar self and come right out and say cum-rags but I am trying (emphasis on the word trying, ok?) to be classy here. So, a classy way of me referring to the wipes/cloths used post-sex to clean up any extra unwanted fluids, if you know what I mean. Now, these can be wet wipes, wash clothes, kleenex’s, whatever. Regardless of what you want to use, I highly recommend that you have some sort of hygienic wipe in your drawer just to make things less…messy? I like Summers Eve products because they’re cruelty-free and dermatologist tested and is recommended for those with sensitive skin. I also recently purchased these specific vegan facial washcloths and they were so soft and smooth on my skin so I went ahead and bought some for my drawer. Trust me, you’ll see why. And obviously, women, please pee after sex. Peeing after sex isn’t a myth and is recommended. But, you do you.
And there you have it, folks — 6 bedside essentials for sex lovers!
Stay safe, stay QUARANTINED, and stay sexy, Cocktale Clubbers!